Here's to Pride month! A time where LGBTQ+ communities come together to celebrate the freedom of being themselves loudly, proudly, and unapologetically. A time where millions of participants recognize and commemorate the impact that LGBTQ+ individuals have had in history, the present, and the future. A time that we here at Kupcakerie like to take to further embrace and acknowledge our wonderful employees who identify deeply within the community, and here is what Pride Month means to them..
Say hi to Seanba:
Say hi to Junior:
By Ashley Polite - May 27th, 2022
1. Tall Dark & Handsome
I mean come on..
2. Not Yo' Mamas Banana Pudding
So good, you'd want to slap her.
3. Hot & Bothered
In a good way, of course!
4. Germaine Jackson
German Chocolate, Jermaine Jackson..get it?
5. Main Squeeze
"Baby will you be my corona & lime, & I will be your....."
6. Peanut Butta Have My Chocolate
Or whatever Rihanna said
7. Jazzy Jane
The sprinkles add the jazz!
8. Cookies & Dreams
The Oreo cupcake of your dreams.
9. Malibu's Most Wanted
The Atlanta version.
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While Black History Month only comes around once a year, we continue to celebrate and recognize the achievements of African Americans every single day. As a black-owned business, it is pivotal to not only maintain the cultural foundation in which we stand, but to uplift and support Black entrepreneurs everywhere.
The heart of Atlanta couldn't beat without the thriving array of Black-owned businesses ranging from music stores, boutiques, art galleries, restaurants, spas and so much more. It is only right to shout out the ones who have showed us kindness, support, and comradery over the years.
*(forgive us if we forgot anyone)*
"I can recall practically stalking Kupcakerie…driving by each day down Main Street waiting to see the “Grand Opening” sign announcing the doors were open for business. Now, let’s just say that I’m a coffee hound from jump and a sucker for a great latte; especially if there is caramel involved! So…after much anticipation this little coffee shop finally opened up and I think me and my friend must have been two of the first people in the door! We studied all the cupcake flavors with these super cool names and the yummy display. I was in a chocolate mood that day and I also happen to see that they had caramel lattes on their menu so my decision landed me with a Tall Dark and Handsome chocolate/chocolate cupcake and one of the best lattes I have ever had. This was the first and only local coffee and sweets shop around and oh my, how quickly I became a regular. The cozy ambiance is just welcoming and the latte/baking technicians are all down to earth and friendly folks! As an author myself, I adore that a small library/book section has been added.
I think it's safe to say that I’ve had at least one of almost every flavor they have ever baked and more caramel lattes than I could toss a guess at. Henry made my first latte or my first 1000 as he said to me one day! :). I guess in a roundabout sort of way I’ve been there almost as long as Henry and Kascha; two very fantastic people.
So…if you fancy yourself buttercream icing on a cupcake that's baked fresh every day, or any flavor of latte iced or hot, (I’m a hot latte drinker myself) all garnished off with some good music, a place to have a seat & relax, and a super staff; then check out this spot. You get an all star treatment here. No shame to admit I’m here nearly every morning for my latte fix and often later in the day for that cupcake fix. Y’all rock and it has been one “sweet” ride! Bake on!"
Be sure to grab Pam's favorite caramel latte while reading her mystery novel, 'Under the Mulberry Tree'. Shop now at http://pamscholes.com/
Written and photographed by Ashley Polite - December 17, 2021
(sing along if you know the words)
It’s the most wonderful time of the year
With the cupcakes baking
The peppermint tasting
And all of the Kupcakerie cheer
It’s the most wonderful time of the year
It’s the hap-happiest season of all
With those Jazzy Jane sprinkles
And Christmas light twinkles
When customers come to call
It’s the hap-happiest season of all
There’ll be coffee for drinking
Jubilee books for thinking
Surrounded by loved ones you know
There’ll be happy short stories
And tales of the glories of
Cupcake flavors long, long ago
It’s the most wonderful time of the year
There’ll be Kascha and Henry
The owners of plenty
Here to spread joy far and near
It’s the most wonderful time of the year
The faces of a bakery so magical and great
With sweets so good you won’t want to wait
Both are excited for their holiday take
And here is how they celebrate:
With a few questions, Henry and Kascha gave the ‘scoop’ on how they celebrate the holiday season.
1.What are you favorite festive activities, holiday food/dessert, and movies to watch?
Henry: I enjoy decorating our tree and exterior of the house. I also like making chocolate chip cookies on Christmas Eve. My favorite holiday movies are Charlie Brown’s Christmas and Home Alone.
Kascha: One of my favorite things to do on Christmas Eve is to bake cookies with our daughter, Savannah. Henry has a mean chocolate chip cookie recipe, but we also enjoy pumpkin chocolate chip. I think this year, we’re going to try to make the best sugar cookie ever. We also wear matching pajamas and watch Christmas movies. My very favorite is It’s a Wonderful Life. Savannah would pick The Grinch.
2. What is something you plan on doing for the holidays that you couldn’t do last year during the pandemic?
Henry: We’re going down to Kascha’s sister’s house in Orlando and hopefully we can get out and do some things in the city.
Kascha: We are going down with our family to Orlando to visit my sister and her family. We’ll get to visit Universal Studios and hopefully ride the train to Hogwarts at Christmastime.
3. Do either of you have any New Year’s Resolutions going into 2022?
Henry: To get our new store open and not burn myself out as much. To keep moving forward in all aspects of life.
Kascha: I am going to focus on wellness in 2022, both physical and mental. I want to take some time each day to meditate and move.
“Hmm....honored to be thought of first off, and I thank you. I give "props" to my father and my 5th grade teacher Ms. Dobbs, who beat in my head that there is nothing you can’t do w/o time and the right tools. Those tools were patience, knowledge, and the willingness to be taught and follow through. Lastly, love and compassion for people. That lead me to become a CPR/First Aid/ AED/ stop-the-bleed instructor. The ignorance and mishandling of firearms in my community led me to be a firearms instructor. I'd be remiss if I didn't say the killing of Black people at the hands of officers who have no regard for their lives didn't strongly influence my learning of firearms. I instruct all through SPierce Consulting. More importantly, I started Blackpackerz and BlackpackerzCrew (501c3) with my friends to teach emergency preparation after hurricane Katrina taught us ONCE again that resources will go to the rich, and no one is coming to save you."
"I'm an avid collector of music and comics. I adore Black Art and support as much as I can. I believe that nature is therapy, and indulge in camping, kayaking and hiking as much as possible, while making sure to let other Black people know that enjoying and experiencing nature is NOT "a white thing". The indigenous have thrived off the land for years. Supporting local and Black owned businesses is a priority. Black owned companies will get my money first, and they continually get my money when I see love and professionalism in their service and product. Which is why I LOVE Kupcakerie. I've never had a bad experience or Kupcake. Ever. Lastly, ‘NJE' (Nature/Journey/Excursion) is my new venture and I believe it is a calling. I will take people on hikes and outdoor events to combat depression and aid in suicide prevention.”
By Ashley Polite - October 22, 2021
Let's be honest.. cream cheese frosting for the win! It's simple, creamy, and no cake or cupcake is complete without it. It only takes about 5 minutes to prepare, and you're only four ingredients away from confection perfection.
Here are our steps for making the most delicious batch:
1) Soften your butter - QUALITY MATTERS. Use the good stuff. We prefer a European Style butter. Nuke it in the microwave for a few seconds or leave it out until it reaches room temp.
2) Cream the butter - Whip until the chunks are gone. This step is essential for a smooth end result.
3) Add the cream cheese - Some say this is the most important ingredient...
4) Add pure vanilla extract - The flavor that brings it all together.
5) Cream together the butter, cream cheese, and vanilla - Make sure all of your ingredients are well acquainted with one another. When the consistency is smooth you're ready for the next step.
6) Add powdered sugar - gradually add the sugar as you continue to mix to avoid clumping. *Warning* some multitasking is required.
7) High whip - The final step. If you're using a mixer, set it at the fastest speed to whip everything together. If you're doing this by hand, you should probably stop and use a mixer. The texture should be light and fluffy like a cloud on a beautiful summer day. Once this is achieved, your cream cheese frosting is ready to devour!
Pairs well with spiced cakes, sugar cookies, and our favorite red velvet cupcake.
ENJOY.
]]>By Ashley Polite - September 17, 2021
While working at Kupcakerie, we have encountered thousands of people. And no, that isn't an exaggeration. Some of our visitors are recurring customers that stop by at least 4 days out of the week. I know their orders by heart, I know how many pets they have, we chat about life, weather, and music depending on what playlist is on at the moment. You're probably wondering how I am able to remember almost everyone right? Well, I've learned to focus on the small characteristics and details of each person. It becomes easier to identify a returning customer when you take notice of their personality, schedule, occupation, and even what they'd normally wear, which brings me to my next point. I noticed a very distinguished gentleman who'd stop by every week to get coffee and do work in the back of the shop. I always thought to myself, "man, he has the best vests ever" every time he came in with a different pair of dress pants on and waistcoat to match. Word around Kupcakerie was that he is extremely successful in his field, and I decided to ask him some questions to learn more.
Meet Jon Goode: an acclaimed author, poet, playwright, and coffee lover.
If you listen to the last 4 minutes of All Together Now: Fridays with The Moth – Boots Riley (link below) you can hear one of my stories from from my time at JMU.
Parable of the Sower and Parable of the Talents by Octavia Butler are dark, dystopian, poignant and in many ways prophetic.
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho because it's just a perfect story about life, choice, manifestation, and destiny.
Cyrano de Bergerac by Edmond Rostand, which is actually a play, is just a classic story of selfless and unconditional love.
Futureland by Walter Mosley, Survivor by Chuck Palahniuk, Watchmen by Alan Moore, Tuf Voyaging by George R R Martin, Pastwatch: The Redemption of Christopher Columbus by Orson Scott Card... the list really goes on and on.
6. What would you consider to be the highlight of your career (so far)?
7. If you could describe your life as a book genre, what would it be and why?
8. What draws you to this city? What are some of your favorite spots in Atlanta? Any recommendations?
9. What is your go-to order at Kupcakerie?
Interesting fella right? If you want to keep in touch with Jon, connect with him on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jon-goode-a42512b/ .
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Meet Alex “Cost One“ Acosta
By Kai Smith on November 26, 2019 @legitlacesatl
Meet Alex “Cost One” Acosta, the co-founder and executive director of the Soul Food Cypher. You may be asking yourself, “What exactly is a cypher?”. Now, there can be some negative stereotypes attached to the word, but Alex refutes this whole heartedly.
In Acosta’s own words, a cypher is “a circle in which art takes place… it’s raw and authentic, and an on-the-spot microcosm of our community.” Cyphers and the lyrics flowing from them are a, “mechanism of survival and healing” for many individuals, according to Acosta. While it may seem like a loud and unorganized circle of people, a cypher is actually very well structured. In the circle, Emcees (rappers) take turns improvising lyrics in real time. The goal of each Emcee is to present their authentic self and inspire the next Emcee to perform and do the same. Surrounding this group of Emcees is the audience. They not only listen to the current Emcee, but also provide real-time feedback by their vocal reaction.
Acosta had taken this creative expression to the next level when he co-founded the Soul Food Cypher in 2012. He and other trusted members have worked to create a safe space that encourages fellowship, applauds individuality, and most of all provides a nurturing environment for the art and community to grow. Additionally, The Soul Food Cypher has facilitated multiple events and programs over the last 8 years. One of these programs is a local after school program called WordShop. The goal of this program is to expose children to new forms of creative expression and teach them the history behind Hip Hop Culture and its African roots. Acosta mentioned how these programs and The Soul Food Cypher has allowed him the unique opportunity to watch and shape the personal development of the members and children across Atlanta.
Alex has been coming to Kupcakerie for the last three years since our doors opened to the public. Whether it’s critiques on a new movie, conversations around the impact of culture and city development, or recommending music to play in the shop, a friendship between us and Alex has grown. Hopefully one day, The Soul Food Cypher will be hosted at Kupcakerie!
Meet Kaseem Ladipo
By Kai Smith on May, 31, 2019 @legitlacesatl
Kaseem Ladipo has been a loyal customer of Kupcakerie for the past two years, coming in regularly to buy cupcakes and coffee. However, his loyalty to his community doesn’t end at cream cheese frosting.
Kaseem was the Executive Director of two educational programs, member of the College Park Historical Society Board, proud husband and father, and is currently a 2019 candidate for Mayor of College Park, GA.
His platform has a heavy emphasis on educational programs in and out of school, building community leadership by increasing civic engagement and creating a more diverse mix of businesses in College Park’s commercial districts.
Kaseem’s dedication to the children of College Park and their future is immense. He has already pledged to push for financial and technical support for PTAs, public schools, and community organizations that increase resources available for the city’s youngest citizens.
Furthermore, Kaseem wants to make sure College Park supports its citizens just as much as the citizens support College Park. He plans to do this by creating quality affordable housing options and building a coalition of leaders from diverse backgrounds who will come together to voice and tackle the concerns raised by the public.
From Kaseem coming into our store over the past two years, we were able to learn a little bit about his story and were eager to share. If you want to get more information, be sure to check out his website.
]]>How One of Our Customers Provides a Voice to the Voiceless
By Henry Adeleye on June 11, 2018
Many people think homelessness is a problem too big to tackle head on. Terence Lester and his team think differently. Terence and his wife, Cecilia, founded Love Beyond Walls, a non-profit dedicated to eradicating homelessness and raising awareness of the needs of those who often get overlooked.
Terence has shown a huge dedication to his cause, including living as a homeless man in order to gain a better understanding of the lives lead by the people he is trying to help. That meant sleeping under a bridge, having to beg for money, getting kicked out of restaurants, and being in and out of homeless shelters. He also walked (yes, walked) from Atlanta to the Lorraine Motel in Memphis to honor Dr. King this past year, as part of his March Against Poverty initiative in conjunction with the Center for Civil and Human Rights.
As Terence has become a regular at Kupcakerie, stopping in to fuel up before his daily grind, we came to learn his story and were tremendously inspired. Check out Love Beyond Walls to learn more and see how you can help.
]]>Wedding between the Loves on Love Day.
By Henry Adeleye on February 26, 2018
On the evening of February 14, 2018, the first wedding we had in its entirety at the shop took place between Tarin and Thomas Love. Fitting name for a Valentine's Day matrimony. Tarin and Thomas had their first date at a cupcake shop and thought it would be super fun to tie the knot at ours. Interested in a simple but chic ceremony, they planned it out perfectly. Here's to many years of happiness and success for these two. Check out some of their pics below. Courtesy of MNA Photography. Cake and cupcakes courtesy of Kupcakerie.
Some of the best advice in the world is the advice we give to other people.
By Henry Adeleye on January 1, 2018
Some of the best advice in the world is the advice we give to other people. I can't even recall the amount of relationship or business advice I've given to friends and customers alike, thinking that their lives would be set if they just took this advice to heart. When it comes to advice for ourselves, however, we're usually unsure of where to look.
How many times have you told your friend that she should let him go, even though you're with someone you should've been let go? How many times have you told a mentee to always make sure they're doing what they love, but you haven't made that same leap? Just the other day I was teaching a friend about inventory control then ordered too many boxes for the store a few minutes later. In all honesty, if we followed the advice we give to others, our lives would be improved tremendously.
Of course, it's easier to give advice than it is to take it. Make 2018 the year this changes. If you're looking for direction, think about what you'd tell someone else to do. If you're wondering what your next career move should be, think about the advice you'd give to a brother or sister. And if you're wondering how to improve your relationship (or whether you should be in it at all), tell yourself what you'd tell your best friend. Let's take 2018 by storm.
]]>This Thanksgiving, make the little things matter.
By Henry Adeleye on November 23, 2017
As we begin this day of Thanks and fight over whether there truly is a difference between sweet potato and pumpkin pie (there most certainly is), let's not forget the little things we should all keep close to our hearts. Just the ability to read this is a privilege not all are granted. Imagine the things you miss out on because you're caught up in the daily grind. Take a moment to stop and appreciate. Send a brief message to those struggling with illness, either of themselves or the people they love, and for those who may have lost people close to them. Be thankful for the delicious plate you'll indulge in (and the people cooking it) and for the laughs you'll share with friends and family. Be thankful for the people in your life, especially the ones you have the biggest disagreements with. Put aside the heartache that a lost job may cause and focus on the positive. Every day we have the opportunity to get angry, stressed, or offended. For one day, let's put away our own problems and be thankful for all the little things that life offers.
]]>He wants something, even if he says he doesn’t.
By Henry Adeleye on February 13, 2017
While baking most mornings, we have pretty in-depth conversations about various topics. Today, of course, we talked about Valentine's Day. I asked the girls what they're getting their significant others tomorrow. Their responses kind of took me aback. They all said that guys don’t get Valentine's Day gifts. Maybe their guys had something to do with the Falcons losing the Super Bowl. That was the only reason I could think that they don't deserve at least a handwritten note. Or maybe it's Trump's fault. Either way, I wondered if I was the only one who thought this was kind of weird. Anywho, I got them down to the point where they at least asked what guys are supposed to get for Valentine's Day, since most won't really want flowers or a giant Teddy Bear (besides me). So, I did a scientific study to see what type of things make good Valentine's Day gifts for guys. And by scientific I mean I asked one close friend. Actually, it was my brother. So here's what we came up with:
A Card
The least you can do is get him a card. Write a special little note in there to show him how much he means to you, if you'd like. Or don't. But at least get the card.
Sports Tickets
If he's a sports fan, this is a cool way to show that, even though you may not like it when he watches the games all day, at least he can go do it alone so you can have the TV to yourself.
A Haircut
Nothing makes a guy feel like he can take on the world like a fresh haircut. Help make him feel powerful. Plus he'll look better on your date.
Shoes
A guy can never have too many. Look for something that's lacking in his current wardrobe.
An Experience
When we look back on life, we'll always remember our experiences more than our things. So providing an experience will go a long way. Whether it's a trip to a museum, test driving his favorite car, or even going rock climbing, this is a good way to go.
Boxers/Socks/Undershirts
This is something he doesn’t realize he needs until it's too late. Don’t let it be too late.
Mani/Pedi
Because you don't want his hands to always look like he's been punching bricks, or his feet to look like he's been kicking rocks, literally.
Clothes
You can't go wrong with a nice Polo.
Food
If he's taking you out to dinner this year, buy him lunch the next day.
Candy
Everyone has a little sweet tooth. Find out what his favorite candy is and let him indulge for a day.
Alcohol
Get his favorite bottle, or a cold six pack.
Cologne
Give him a little refill of your favorite cologne of his.
God
If religion is his thing, of course.
]]>Come check out our new stuff.
By Kupcakerie on January 8, 2017
It's a New Year and we wanted to start it off with some new things. By popular demand, we will be beginning our new 'Eats' menu on Monday, January 9th.
Morning items will come courtesy of Atlanta-based H&F Bread Co. and will include bacon cheddar croissants, almond biscotti, bagels, and muffins. But wait, there's more! We'll be opening at 7am for these Eats, as well as coffee. (Cupcakes will still be out at their normal time, unfortunately).
For the afternoon, we'll be teaming up with local food company, Eezy Foodz. They'll be serving up chicken salad sandwiches, berry salads, and house salads. Come on down and grab a bite!
Start the New Year off right.
By Henry Adeleye on January 3, 2017
It's officially 2017. And unless you're Mariah Carey, it's going to be your year. While 2016 was also supposed to be your year, this year is going to be different. One of the most common resolutions people make is to grow their side hustles into something that can eventually pay the bills. Of course that's easier said than done, but every journey starts with baby steps. Check out some of these steps to do just that:
1. Have a side hustle to begin with.
This should go without saying but you never know.
2. Do well at your current job.
The last thing you need to do is get fired. Don't bring on any unnecessary stress.
3. Visualize where you want your side hustle to be in 25 years.
One of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is to begin with the end in mind. Figure out where you want to be ideally, and then conjure up the steps to get there.
4. Write a business plan.
Write a business plan to detail the steps to make your side hustle legitimate. Focus on your market strategies and how to overcome your competition.
5. Save your tax return.
Your initial seed money may already be waiting for you. You can survive not going to Europe for the seventh time.
6. Learn to live a very frugal life.
Cash flow should become your favorite topic. Never spend more than you take in.
7. Sell stuff.
At the end of the day, you don't have a business if you're not selling. This is the hardest part but also the most important part. It's going to take you getting out of your comfort zone and doing something that may be slightly embarrassing. It's easiest to start with your friends and family, but then you'll have to learn how to sell to people you don't know. Make sure you're on all social media platforms and that your pages are focused and updated regularly. Get a website that is clean and easy to navigate. Figure out your target market and where they spend their time.
Once you figure that out, keep finding ways to sell more. If you eventually have to raise money, investors will want to make sure people are buying whatever you're selling, literally and figuratively. There's no way around having to sell.
8. Find a co-founder.
Not only is it impossible to do everything yourself, but you also need more contacts to leverage. Find someone with complementary skills to yours and a different group of friends and co-workers to market your idea to.
9. Set deadlines.
There's a reason people pull all-nighters in school. When you have a deadline set for something, you'll do whatever you can to make sure you meet it, even if it means taking Adder...multiple shots of espresso. The same goes for your side hustle. Set deadlines for when you should have certain milestones complete, whether launching your website, having a certain number of customers, or getting your first storefront. Deadlines are real and they work.
10. Sell more stuff.
Just in case you didn't catch it the first time. Do this well enough and you'll be ready to turn that side hustle into your main hustle.
]]>There's strength in stories.
By Henry Adeleye on October 7, 2016
We're officially into the first week of October, which is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Always believing in doing more than just wearing pink, we interviewed Suzanne Tyree, a breast cancer survivor, to learn her story. Every battle is different, but there are some great insights we can all learn from people who have had to take breast cancer head on. Some excerpts from our interview are below:
When/how did you learn you had breast cancer?
I was diagnosed in June, 2005. I went to see the doctor because I had a bite mark on my breast. She said it was a spider bite, but I wanted to get a mammogram just to make sure. At that time, they found breast cancer in my right breast.
What were your first thoughts?
Due to the fact that I lost my mom to breast cancer, my first thoughts were that I was going to die, too.
How was the treatment process?
It was horrible. I was always exhausted. I had to go to chemo once a week. I would sit in a chair for six hours at a time. Had multiple surgeries. But my faith, family, and loved ones helped tremendously.
What role did your mindset play during the treatment process?
My mindset was that I wanted to live and I was going to do whatever I had to do to fight this. I think that played a major role in getting through everything.
What advice can you give to people going through the same thing?
You're in for the battle of your life, but in the end everything is going to be okay. Keep a good outlook on life and never, ever give up.
What advice can you give to their friends and loved ones?
Try not to let them know you're worried or scared. They need you to be supportive and there for them.
What are the biggest lessons you've learned through it all?
Life is too short, so you have to enjoy every day, and don't take things so seriously. Also, you have to take care of yourself.
]]>What could you do if you took yourself more seriously?
By Henry Adeleye on July 15, 2016
Do you believe that the major triumphs in life are reserved for those special elites? Have you ever wanted to start something but thought no one would notice? Have you ever sold yourself short because you thought big dreams shouldn't leave the bedroom? Maybe you're not taking yourself seriously enough.
There's a guy I know who's always doing things to make sure people know how important he is. Whenever he does that, I always think to myself, "He takes himself way too seriously." He actually does. Don't be like him. But in the sense of believing that even your most far-fetched ideas can come to fruition with a little belief, you can't go wrong with that.
Now more than ever, the world needs people to step up and start stuff. We need more leaders, creators, and believers. We definitely need more good people to run for local, state, and national office. And we need more people to build the next big thing. In short, the world needs more people who take themselves seriously. There are communities that need someone to build them up. Are you going to step up to the plate?
Earlier this week, I read an article about how Little 5 Points here in Atlanta came to be how it is today. In the mid-70s, the area was left abandoned and run down. Then a band of neighbors decided to do something about it. Whole strips of vacant stores were bought by people in the neighborhood who pulled their resources together and built something great. None of them really knew what they were doing at the time, but they took it seriously, nonetheless. Look at it now.
What could you do if you felt the same way about yourself? What injustice could you make right? What benefit could you give society that you've thought too far-fetched to make a reality? Take it seriously and you can make it all happen. We need you to.
Inspired by this piece.
]]>It's hard out there.
By Henry Adeleye on July 1, 2016
Disclaimer: This situation isn't about me.
A friend asked me to write about a relationship situation he's going through. I agreed. Long story short, it's hard out there. Let's get into it:
Situation: His girlfriend of about six months broke up with him. After arguments over random people who liked his pictures on Instagram and even more random people he followed, she finally said enough is enough. She cut it off like she was Britain and he was the EU. And she could care less what the world thought. He was a little shaken and caught off guard by the whole situation. Six months is usually the timeframe when people can't hide who they are anymore, but he certainly didn't expect that. This is something they've argued over in the past. So she felt he should've changed by now. Maybe he should've seen it coming. Anyway, was she wrong for breaking up with him over a somewhat trivial matter? Or should he have just deleted his Instagram account after the first argument to appease her? She's 40, by the way. Not sure if that changes things. But it ̶s̶h̶o̶u̶l̶d̶ may.
Response: Love, like happiness, is a choice. There are a million things that can make you think you should look elsewhere for love, but to build a lasting relationship, you have to consciously choose to ignore those things. Even the perfect person can do some things that can make you think you're better off traveling the world alone in true Millennial fashion. And with every thing that goes wrong, you have to ask yourself if it's worth breaking up over. At what age do we stop taking social media so seriously? If it was going down in the DM, that's a whole 'nother story. But random liking of pictures are a non-event. At the same time though, if something really bothers someone, there are things you can/should do to help ease the tension. That just depends on whether or not you want to make that choice. But I think they're better off broken up. This was a house made of sand built in the water. Mud.
What do you think?
]]>A recap of our weddings the last two weeks.
By Kupcakerie on June 24, 2016
There's summer, and then there's weddings. But when the two collide, they form great balls of fire (or something like that). So far this summer, we've had the chance to help make two similar yet distinct weddings all the more beautiful.
First, we'll start with the Wrights. The Wrights opted for a more traditional wedding venue but wanted something easy to grab when it came to the cake. Their reception was at Little River Farms in Milton, and their choice of cupcakes fit the venue perfectly. They chose two cupcake towers, one representing the groom, and one the bride. And they had a little something for everyone when it came to flavors. This journey was particularly interesting because the bride's dad was in charge of getting everything for the cupcakes together. Believe it or not, dads usually don't get this involved. So kudos to him!
Next, we have the Meyers, who opted for a more chic, industrial wedding reception. Their venue was Monday Night Brewing, a craft beer brewery in Atlanta, so you can only imagine how much fun they must have had. For their cupcakes, they wanted to add a custom raspberry flavor to the mix, so that was fun to come up with. They went with a jumbo cupcake as their cutting cake, and had a 3-D printed airplane as their topper, to celebrate the groom being in the Air Force. The journey to their final product was also interesting because the bride and groom were out of the country during their tasting and relied on the judgment of the bride's mother and the bride's best friend to make sure the right flavors were picked. We're glad to have made the cut! See below for more pictures of each wedding.
A month ago yesterday, we were crazy enough to open a store. You wanna know what we learned? Read on and explore.
By Henry Adeleye on June 3, 2016
We opened our doors in East Point, GA a month ago. It really feels like yesterday. How is it June already? Anywho, in this short period we've learned a lot about ourselves and about business in general. And we've learned even more about people and about our wonderful community. So since we love listicles, we'll use one to go more in depth with some more of what we've learned. Grab a seat.
You meet some very cool and interesting people.
People from all walks of life come through your doors and they all bring a different kind of energy. The diversity is cool.
With even more interesting stories.
Hearing what brought people to the area always turns into a great and/or funny story.
Community is super important.
It's been fun getting feedback and seeing what the community would like to see added. Neighborhood association meetings have been a blast. We're listening.
Women use a lot of toilet paper.
Being married doesn't prepare you for this.
The mayor is super cool and helpful.
And she's not a robot, which is pretty nice.
The permit office will make you vote for Trump.
Like seriously.
Sleep isn't an option.
You'll forget that Atlanta has traffic because you're up before it hits and go home after it's gone.
No one drinks decaf.
I guess I'm just a weirdo.
You make regulars pretty quickly.
Like day two quickly.
There are a lot more vegans than we thought.
And more vegan options are definitely on the horizon. Should be fun experimenting with recipes.
People are what matter most.
Serving people. Learning about people, including yourself. Connecting with people. Finding out their needs and wants. Or what's going on in their lives, good and bad. It's all about people. And we hope to learn even more in the future. Thanks for a great month!
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By Kupcakerie on April 29, 2016
The time is finally here! After many hurdles, we're excited to announce our grand opening! Soft opening with limited hours starting next Tuesday. Grand opening Saturday, May 7th, at 12:00pm. Cupcakes, coffee, tea, Wi-Fi. Located in Historic Downtown East Point. Let's do this.
2781 Main Street, East Point, GA 30344
]]>Where does trying to ensure safety cross the line of making excuses for guys' behavior?
By Henry Adeleye on April 15, 2016
In the ever more progressive world we live in, ideas that used to just be normal can suddenly seem prehistoric. I mean, who could've predicted that people would use their smartphones to find dates, and then use them again while they're on an actual date with that date. Similarly, just a few years ago, we wouldn't have thought twice about a principal telling schoolgirls to lengthen their skirts to below the knee to keep guys from "getting ideas". But now, we have to look at that kind of thinking with a little skepticism.
A New Zealand school is making headlines for doing just that. A deputy principal at Henderson High School in Auckland has created quite a stir for taking its female students aside into a meeting and telling them that their skirts need to be longer. It wasn't necessarily the rule itself that caused the controversy; it was the rationale he gave. His reasoning was that the move was designed to "keep the girls safe, stop boys from getting ideas, and create a good work environment for male staff."
Now if this seems like he's making excuses for male behavior as if it's some kind of uncontrollable rage that can only be prevented by not ever setting it off in the first place, it's because he is. The fact of the matter is that guys should learn to control their emotions and their hormones, whichever comes first. Girls should not be held responsible for the negative acts of these guys.
Of course, like with anything, there are people who support the deputy principal's actions. Even if these people happen to be musicians you really like (and are maybe or maybe not listening to as we speak), you have to learn to separate their work from their words. And there is a valid argument that we should plan for the world that exists instead of the world that we would like to see. But we can never get to that ideal world if we don't put our foot down somewhere.
So, where do we draw the line between good advice and giving guys a free pass? That's always the toughest question to answer. For me personally, I like to think back to when my brother and another gentleman got their cars broken into in a church parking lot. The thieves tried, unsuccessfully, to take my brother's stereo (though they were very successful in shattering his back window), and they took the other guy's iPhone.
I remember how pissed I was about it, even though the items weren't mine. When we told the pastor of the church what happened, he offered his condolences but said that it was ultimately my brother and the other gentleman's fault for having valuables in their cars in plain view. I recall wondering how the heck he could blame them and not put any implication on the people who broke into the cars., that even if they had a million dollars in a lime green briefcase that said "steal me" sitting on the front seat with the doors unlocked, it's still no excuse to take it. There really was no room for blaming the victims in that situation. And then I concluded that the same applies for these schoolgirls.
]]>Choose Happy.
By Henry Adeleye on April 8, 2016
As we draw nearer to our opening (!!!), I feel like I should be a nervous wreck. But I'm not. With all the things going on in the world around us, it's easy to get caught up in letting things outside our control determine our happiness. The truth is, we are the ones ultimately responsible for it.
It's tough to think of having that burden on you. The burden of being responsible for the way you feel. Of not having anyone to blame for your unhappiness when things don’t go your way. And of course you can't control those actual things, but you can control how you respond to them.
Through the many hoops and hurdles that have been found on this journey, I've found that the only way to get through anything in one piece is to have a positive attitude. I witnessed this when a close friend's father passed. And I witnessed it after the UNC basketball team passed. You just have to brush it off and keep on trekking.
When life throws obstacles your way, choose happy. When you find yourself crying over the same guy who's been doing you wrong since 2010, choose happy. When there's something or someone who decides their only job in life is to make yours a living hell, choose happy. Because no matter what, the decision to be happy is ultimately up to you.
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